There’s a lot of talk about forgiveness as a cure for something painful from the past. I question use of that word, however, because it can easily mean, “Oh, gee, I forgive you for murdering someone, there, there, here’s a Hallmark card.” I am reminded, however, that the other person has no connection to this forgiveness idea. It’s just a way of removing the power to continually hurt from that person, and use the forgiveness energy to heal yourself.
I suggest that “acceptance” might be a better word. Accept the facts of the past, use them for a base of moving forward and accept how much more character you have for it. It is still a lot of work, but then, that’s life…”Polite People in a Perfect House.”
